Getting Started in Infantilism (on the Net)

"Wow! I didn't know there was anybody else who liked wearing diapers!"

I've heard a lot of people say that. It's a wonderful thing, finding out that there are lots of people like yourself, after you've spent your entire life absolutely sure that there was something wrong with you. If you've just found out there are others who like diapers, then this page is for you.

I just found out I'm not alone. What should I do now?

Usenet Newsgroups

First of all, don't go back to being alone. Keep in touch. If you have access to Usenet, try alt.sex.fetish.diapers -- the newsgroup may be full of sex spam and "I want a mommy" posts, but it was created by infantilists and diaper fetishists specifically for the discussion of their common fetish.

There is also alt.fan.dean-stark.diaper-play. I don't know who Dean Stark may be, but this newsgroup was created as a joke along with several others and has actually turned into a usable forum, mostly because it's not located in the alt.sex.* hierarchy and therefore doesn't get much sex spam.

IRC

If you have access to IRC, try the following channels:

EFnet: #DPF (not affiliated with the organization DPF), #diapers, #SissyBabies, #nappies (for UK babies)
Undernet: #diapers
DALnet: #DPF, #diapers

Start your IRC software, connect to the server, join the channel you want and say hello. There's usually someone around to talk to. If you don't have IRC software, here's how to get it:

Unix: Try typing "irc" or possibly "ircii" to see if it's already installed on your system. If not, you might want to install it yourself, depending on your disk quota and whether your system administrators approve. To download it from the Boston University site, click here. If you have a Unix system at home (including Linux), there are several graphical IRC clients available such as xchat and Zircon.
Windows: Use mIRC. It's the best.
Macintosh: Use IRCle.

There's a page called "IRC Basics" that can get anybody started with IRC.

Mailing Lists

There are several mailing lists having to do with infantilism and adult babies at Yahoo Groups. Just search for "infantilism", "adult babies", or "diapers".

You may also want to join the Big Babies, Infantilists, and Friends (BBIF) mailing list, which to my knowledge was the first one out there (on the Internet). To do so, send email to bbif-request@bbif.vaporware.org -- remember to give your year of birth. There's more information at their Web page.

You may be tempted to join mailing lists for parents about bedwetting children or the like. A word about this -- don't. I submit that these lists should be left to parents and child development experts. For one thing, this is like someone going into one of the infantilism mailing lists and starting a conversation about gun control. But there is also a question of responsibility: the more adult babies seem to be interested in actual children, the more the ignorant public will continue to confuse them with pedophiles.

Real-Life, Non-Internet Stuff

Finally, you might want to join an infantilist organization. DPF is probably the largest and oldest of these, and is definitely the best known. They have a roster of members so you can write to people, and they have a large selection of stories, articles and products. Check out their Web page.

Everybody's talking about the cool baby stuff they have. Where do I get some?

DPF (Diaper Pail Friends)

Try DPF (see above). They have lots of cool baby stuff, although sometimes it can be expensive.

Other Sources

There are also lots of other places that infantilists, adult babies and diaper fetishists order from, some of whom are aware of infantilism, but most of whom are not (so be careful). Racter keeps an HTML version of the ASFD resource list. You may also want to look at my links. Remember, some of the suppliers aren't adult-baby aware, so they may not react well if you tell them what you want the stuff for! Best to keep it vague.

How do I meet a mommy (or daddy, or another baby) in my area?

Good question. Everybody wants to meet someone to share their fantasies with. But it's not easy to find somebody, especially if you're looking for a mommy, or an adult baby girl (one who's physically female, that is!), who are in short supply and high demand. One way is to join DPF (mentioned above) and look in their roster listings. Another way is to post to alt.sex.fetish.diapers and hope for a reply; however, judging from the number of articles like this that appear every day, this method isn't too likely to be successful.

Another way is to be patient. Maintain a reasonable presence on the newsgroup, the mailing list, and/or the IRC channel, talk to people publicly and privately, and get to know people. At the very least you'll make some friends you can talk about your fantasies with.

Finally, you might try meeting people in mundane ways, the way it's always been done, and tell them about your fantasies. Who knows -- perhaps they'll find out they like diapers too!

Should I tell my girlfriend/boyfriend/family?

This is up to you, of course, but you never know how people are going to react, and you can't un-tell them once you've told them. Still, if you think the word's going to get around, it may be better for them to hear it from you than through the grapevine. I haven't told my family I'm an infantilist, and I don't intend to, because I can see no reason why they need to know this. What if my father gets the idea that he is somehow "to blame" for my fetish (as if there's something negative about it!)? Really, as long as I'm not going to be involving them in my diaper play (and I don't envision a time when this will happen), I'm not going to tell them.

I told my wife, though, before we even got engaged. I thought it was important that we have no big secrets, and since my infantilism was the biggest secret of my life at that time, once I got past that one I could tell her anything! In my opinion, if you're going to be spending lots of time with someone, better to tell them early than later. If I'd waited until now, she'd wonder what else I'd been keeping from her all this time.

Where can I get pictures and stories off the net?

I do have a page showcasing my stories, but I don't have a library of pictures because of my limited web quota. There are some adult-baby pictures and stories at other people's pages. Stories sometimes appear on the newsgroup alt.sex.fetish.diapers, and pictures sometimes appear there and on alt.binaries.pictures.erotica.fetish.diapers.

This file was last modified on July 23, 2011.