In case you want to play with me

If there's anyone out there who likes the idea of taking care of a diapered sissy (adult) baby, read on. Here is what I like, what I don't like and what real-life factors might influence the situation.

Some basic stuff

First, I'll repeat some of the information from my main page. In real life my name is Tom Lee. I'm 36 years old, male, and married. I live in Bloomington, Indiana. My wife knows all about the fact that I like diapers and baby things, but she doesn't participate, so we've agreed that I'm free to do "baby things" with anybody I want, as long as there's no sex.

My wife

My wife is very important in this picture; I think you should know that right off. She's into DS (which in her case means she wants a servant) and SM (which in her case means she likes to inflict pain). I don't like that kind of play myself, but then she doesn't like infantilism, so that's why we've come to the agreement we have: I can play baby with anybody, and she can do DS and SM with anybody.

However, she insists that I meet everyone she plays with, and I think she should meet anyone I play with. I don't think this is too much to ask; after all, my wife is almost as intimately involved in my life as I am. She won't necessarily even be around for the actual play scenes, but we should probably get together in a "normal" sort of way in some neutral place, such as a restaurant, just to get to know one another before play begins. If the play were being done over the net, I'd probably just tell her about you and maybe give her your email address so she could ask you questions if she wanted.

As an answer to a frequently asked question, no, my wife does not "switch." She never takes the submissive role, does not like to receive pain and would definitly not enjoy being diapered. To suggest such after being told otherwise would be to earn her everlasting enmity. Consider yourself told otherwise.

Answering another frequently-asked question, yes, we have tried using diapers and infantilism in BDSM scenes. It just doesn't work well. Treating me like a baby, or even just diapering me, is just plain upsetting to her and destroys her enjoyment of the scene.

What I like

I like diapers. Any play I do, I want there to be diapers involved. I like both cloth and disposable diapers, and I always wear plastic panties over them, both cloth and disposable, as a measure of protection and simply because they feel great. I like to wet my diapers. (If this shocks you, why are you reading this?) When playing on my own I very rarely mess my diapers, but when I do it is always in disposables, because it would be nasty to clean that kind of mess out of cloth diapers. If we played, I would want one of the rules to be that I had to wet my diapers rather than use the potty, but it would be entirely up to you whether I had to mess my diapers too.
I like baby things. Bibs, bottles, pacifiers, baby clothes, and so forth are great. I would prefer if our play involved these. I have many of these things. However, I don't have any of the wonderful baby furniture I hear about -- sometimes I can afford big baby clothes, but my fortunes have not yet reached the point where I can have baby furniture custom-made, or even think about making it myself.
I like sissy baby things. I have a couple baby dresses, two pairs of rhumba panties (plastic panties with a decorative outer layer with lace on the seat), and miscellaneous other stuff. I like to be a baby girl or sissy boy better than I like being just a plain boy.
I like hypnosis fantasies, in which I am hypnotized to have no bladder/bowel control, to always want to suck my thumb, to behave babyishly, etc. However, I've never been hypnotized by anybody else. I've tried self-hypnosis, but I can't be sure that it's ever worked. But that doesn't mean we couldn't roleplay a hypnosis fantasy as if it worked. It would just have to be worked out in advance how I had been "hypnotized" to behave, and under what conditions.
I like humiliation. Now, there are two types of humiliation, the good kind and the bad kind, and it's hard to keep them separate. Obviously the good kind is the kind that sends those good tingly feelings through my body, and the bad kind is the kind that makes me feel awful and worthless. Yes, this is a very subjective definition, which means that it's probably not a good idea for me to engage in this kind of play with anybody who doesn't know me at least somewhat well. Basically I don't mind being told that I'm in wet or dirty diapers and that therefore I must be a baby and have to be in diapers all the time, but don't tell me that I'm just a baby and I'm no good for anything.

What I don't like

I don't want sex. I don't really see sex as part of the baby role. So, if your idea of adult baby play involves the baby sucking on your own personal pacifier, then, sad to say, perhaps you shouldn't play with me. I have absolutely no desire to suck cock; just my actual, plastic baby pacifier and my real baby bottle, the one with formula in it. On the other hand, the up-side of this is that it doesn't really matter whether you are male or female. Just being who I am, I have a preference for females, but with sex not an issue it doesn't really matter tremendously.
I don't get off on body wastes in general. It's exciting to me to wet and mess my diaper, because it's something babies do and grownups don't (well, not most of them, anyway). But I'm not interested in the pee and poop being anywhere else, and I'm not interested in anybody else's pee or poop. It had to be said.
Although one of my fantasies is public exposure, I don't want to do anything that would jeopardize my career or my wife's. I don't mind playing games where I'm going to be taken out in public, as long as it doesn't happen in the end, happens only in a covert way, or happens only in make-believe. Also, I can imagine being taken out in public to someplace where nobody would know me. (Obviously you'd have to find out what cities my friends and relatives live in before doing this.) One warning, though: I have never done any obvious baby play in public, so I can't be certain.
We're on a budget, which means I can't just go out and buy anything I want. I hope it doesn't cramp your imagination, but play is just going to have to use the things I have already (see below).

My favorite fantasies

There are various roles I like to play in my head (all of them wind up in diapers and baby girl clothes though), but most of them fall into the following categories -- choose one from each column:

Age	Sex/gender	Reason for being diapered and/or sissified
Toddler, around 2	Boy	Likes it; always has
Child, around 8	Sissy boy	Has to wear diapers for medical reasons
Pre-teen, around 12	Girl	Is being punished for something

Supplies, clothes and props I have

Here is a list of most of the baby stuff I have. It might help you plan.

Baby Basics

I usually have a supply of adult disposable diapers
Right now I have a small supply of large Goodnites disposable training pants
Five cloth diapers
Diaper pins -- plain white, plain pink, pink bunnies, pink duckies
Plastic panties -- plain translucent pull-ons, pink pull-ons, nursery print pull-ons, nursery print snap-ons
One pair of locking plastic panties -- they're pink with a chain that runs through the waistband which can be locked to prevent removal.
Onesies (like a one-piece T-shirt and underpants combination, with snaps in the crotch) -- white
Adult-size baby wipes

Other Baby Things

Pacifiers -- clear pink with regular nipple, clear pink with Nuk nipple, white with toddler-size Nuk nipple, white with Nuk nipple and glow-in-the-dark spot, pink with adult-size nipple that doesn't fit in mouth well (that one's from DPF)
Pacifier clips (consist of a decorated clip that attaches to clothes and a strap that connects to the pacifier, designed to keep the pacifier from falling to the floor and getting dirty) -- Baby Minnie Mouse, "My Girl"
Bottles -- plain white and transparent, pink and purple with cartoon characters
Bibs -- pink adult-size wraparound bib with Disney characters, various toddler-size bibs
Diaper bag -- has several compartments and bottle pockets on the outside and inside, includes changing pad, plastic bag for wet diapers
Baby wrist "leash" -- an elastic strap that uses Velcro to fasten around baby's wrist and has a loop for the parent to hold

Baby Clothes

Blue footed blanket sleeper with sailboat applique on left breast (from DPF)
Pink footed sleeper of a lighter material (this has the sleeves slightly longer than usual and sewn shut, as well as the zipper in back with a tab that snaps over the top -- once I'm in this sleeper I'm not getting out without help, and with the mittens below put on my hands before the sleeper is put on, I can't do much at all without help)
Pink and white frilly sunsuit (imagine baggy panties with big ruffles on the seat with a bib-overall front and overall-like straps going over the shoulders, with snaps in the crotch) (from DPF)
Pink corduroy overalls with snaps up the legs and in the crotch (from DPF)
Pink satin-like baby dress with empire waistline, short puffy sleeves, and lace around hem (from DPF)
Pink cotton print baby dress with empire waistline, short puffy sleeves and lacy white yoke at top (bought from someone I met at a party)
Yellow yarn baby bonnet (made myself)
Yellow thumbless mittens with padded palms and ribbons to tie around wrists (made myself)
Lacy socks (found in store)
Blue nursery-print booties (from DPF)
Plastic-lined rhumba panties (plastic panties with a decorative outer layer consisting of thin fabric with lace across the seat) -- white with pink lace (from DPF), white with blue lace (unsure of source)
Pink ruffled panties (with lace around the leg openings and across the seat) (these aren't plastic-lined; they'd have to go over plain plastic panties) (from Lee's Mardi Gras)
Black shiny Mary Jane shoes (unfortunately with corrugated soles, but otherwise very authentic little-girl looking)

Back to real life

To return to reality, I'll repeat some more from my main page. I don't wear diapers all the time; there are times when I feel like it and times when I don't. I do get a sexual kick out of wearing and using diapers and baby things, but I also get a feeling of security and well-being that is quite separate from the sexual side of things. I am fully continent (too much so, I think sometimes) and don't need diapers at all; when I wear them it is a conscious choice.

We do have a car, although it's somewhat old, but it seems to be able to handle moderate-distance trips without trouble. Driving an hour and a half to Indianapolis or two hours to Cincinnatti, for example, wouldn't be much of a problem. If you're not in range, we can still play by email or some such. (Not that playing by email would necessarily be dull -- I can imagine roleplaying some wonderful stuff, or even having to follow your orders in real life and report back. Maybe someday somebody will get me a monthly subscription order of disposables from HDIS and make me wear them all the time, reporting in regularly. <grin>, dream on baby!)

Thank you for reading this far, and if you have any comments or perhaps would even like to play, please email me at .

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